5 Years

Andy and Abram, Easter 2016.

Today marks 5 years since Andy and I got married. Wow! I feel like it flew by. I asked him if he felt that way and he said, “Some of the times went faster than others.” Ha! He is always honest, that’s one of the things I love about him. As I have been reflecting on our 5 married years, I think the virtue of Andy’s that sticks out to me the most is patience. 

Andy is not only patient with me on a day-to-day basis, he is patient with my goals and dreams and everything I have to do to get there. 4 out of our 5 years of being married {and actually all the years we have known each other} have been with me in school. After we were married and my scholarship ran out, he was the one earning most of the money to continue to cash-flow my education. He has sold prized fire arms and guitars to provide for us when things were tight. He has endured long nights of studying, very early project mornings, lots of cow poop, paying the university over and over, and he has never complained once.

Seriously. Not once.

I know, I can’t even believe it. Because I sure complained!

Andy putting and engine in

He deserves to be sainted. Although I’m pretty sure to be sainted you can’t cuss, so that may take him out of the running. 🙂

When we were first married, his mom would jokingly thank me every time we got together for “taking” him. And we would all laugh and I would nod, because while Andy has a heart of gold, it’s also as wild as the day is long, and wild hearts cannot be tamed. Which means he definitely gave his poor mother a run for her money growing up and learning how to be married did not include a “honeymoon phase” for either him or I.

Andy with his Detroit hat

But through the last five years, I’ve grown to not just tolerate the wild, but love it just as much as I love other things about him.

Even if it does include doing things like moving my piano into our house by taking off the deck railing and pushing it from the truck to the deck using a skateboard over a very questionable ramp.

Or testing out a “zero degree” rated sleeping bag on the back porch in January.

Or riding the beef steer around the pasture just to see if he could.

Andy fishing with Abram

I think I’ve said, “What are you doing?!” more times in the last five years than I ever had in my life up to that point.

Andy riding the 4-wheeler with Abram

Those of you with husband who have wild hearts, or boys with wild hearts, you know what I mean. Right? I think you do. Wild hearts cannot be tamed.

Andy unloading his Torino

These days, I feel the need to thank Andy’s mother for letting me take him.

Because while being married to anyone is certainly work {and when you have a small farm there is certainly more than enough work to go around} I never have to question if Andy will show up to get the job done. Whether the job is a farm chore or a relationship chore or a father chore or a church chore, he is reliable 100% of the time, wild as his heart may be.

Abram and Andy Hiking on the Canal

I never have to worry if we will have money for groceries. I never have to worry about where he is or what he is doing. I never have to worry if I am enough. He gets all the important things right, every single time. He fills our life with spontaneity and excitement, and he also fills it with security and love.

Andy and Abram in the hammock

He is one of a kind, and one of the great ones. I don’t think I even had a inkling of how lucky I was when we exchanged our vows 5 years ago! Our life is so good, because we both work hard to make it that way. I’m so thankful for a husband that is committed 100%, because marriage is most certainly not just 50:50. {More marriage inspiration from one of my favorite sermons here. It was given to a congregation of men, but applies to everyone.}

Andy hiking with Abram to go fishing

I know this post was gushy, and Andy will probably barf in his mouth when he reads it, but everyone needs to know that he is super awesome!

I love him.

Andy walking with his pack

PS: If you want to see wedding photos, check out this post from last year!

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    June 30, 2016 at 1:43 PM This was really sweet! I remember but can't believe it's been five years ago! I'm glad you shared.
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      June 30, 2016 at 9:44 PM Thank you Kim!

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